There is, however, some biology involved when it comes to falling for someone, adds sexologist Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D. Love has always been extremely tricky to define and measure because of the subjective nature of the experience, says licensed psychologist Danielle Forshee, PsyD. And while all humans experience attachment in their own ways, there may be some differences in how men and women fall in love that can help you navigate the confusing dynamics of an early relationship. Dating jitters, social expectations, and gender dynamics can all impact the way you interact with a potential partner. They talked and they understood each other.Falling in love can be complicated. She felt better about herself and what she needed. Which, by the way, made made all the difference for her and for him. She took a deep breath and repeated the communication using a clear and more neutral vocal tone. So I asked her to gather herself, and try the very same message again, this time from a more centered, non-victim place. Her message was valid, it just sounded awful, even to me. In a session with a couple recently, the woman was communicating to her husband in what I would call a whining and complaining voice. He says that most people at a railway station say female announcers are clearer, and maybe it has to do with the added information in the female sound. Because the brain is apparently deciphering the modulation in women’s voices, Hunter thinks a female voice might be able to communicate more information per sentence than a male voice. Some conclude that from Hunter’s research that men find the female voice more difficult to hear and understand. Get to a better place with yourself and then talk. It’s bad music, and he’ll be compelled to turn you off.
If you want to be heard, the actual sound of complaining, correcting, or criticizing won’t make him listen. Just change stations and listen to something more pleasing. If you sound like bad music or noise, he simply turns you off. He wants to hear you and understand what you’re communicating. In my experience working with couples, If you are (good) music to his ears, he decodes. We sound more like music to a man’s ears. We have a more poetic quality to our speech. They went on to say that women generally have shorter vocal folds, and more variation in pitch and volume, or melody, as we speak. Male voices activate the “mind’s eye,” a region of the brain used for conjuring imagery.” Women’s voices stimulate an area of the brain used for processing complex sounds, like music. This could explain a few things!įrom Discover Magazine, November of 2005: “Psychiatrist Michael Hunter and fellow researchers at the University of Sheffield in England monitored the brain activity of 12 men as they listened to voice recordings and found they process male voices differently from those of females. The part of the male brain that processes a woman’s voice is the same part that processes music.
Her voice may not be music to his ears, but his brain thinks so! A man hears another male’s voice as speech.īut, to a man’s brain, a woman’s voice is different! According to researchers, there is a (big) difference between how a man hears a male voice and how he hears a female voice.